tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6794443303467767544.post7920058066623234012..comments2012-09-15T19:21:39.591-04:00Comments on Traumatized Adoptive Parents Support: HolidaysTAPS@post.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16766655249311037563noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6794443303467767544.post-45491717748749189032012-02-17T14:28:40.125-05:002012-02-17T14:28:40.125-05:00The taste/smell of Christmas remains a huge trigge...The taste/smell of Christmas remains a huge trigger for our daughter. After about 15 or so years we found out part of the reason why. A former foster mom told of how bio-mom would lovingly scrounge together change to purchase something she could share with her three children during supervised visits in the Children and Family Services office. <br /><br />Biomom always chose "spiced" gumdrops to share among the four of them. <br /><br />Spiced gumdrops had been the "feast" of the repeated heartaches of our daughter's first family lost. <br /><br />I encourage parents... when you notice things trigger your kids... understand chances are there is a very good reason why. <br /><br />For us, as far as holidays would go... the first three years were most difficult... then things got beautiful for at least ten beautiful years.<br /><br />Having our kids journal daily about feelings (one positive/one negative emotion per day) helped keep them on an even keel. <br /><br />When our adolescents convinced us the assignment was too juvenile for them, their progression toward meltdown began... I'm guessing it's primarily because they no longer had an appropriate vent for the emotions that bombard them daily.Hedged in Beautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11814058774756857724noreply@blogger.com